1 Ridiculous but Effective Way to Master the Fear of Rejection

Jia Jiang approached a random person’s house with a soccer ball in hand.

He rung the doorbell and a bewildered man came to the door. He asked him if he could take a picture of himself playing soccer in his backyard. Jia waited in silence.

“I guess so,” said the man.

Jia was astounded — he said yes? Jia was on a 100-day mission to get rejected from 100 crazy requests, each one tougher than the last. His goal?

Become Rejection Proof. How?

Shower yourself with rejection.

Why would we want to subject ourselves to repeated rejection?

  • Repeated exposure/practice reduces anxiety
  • Get to know better phrases
  • Understand why people say no
  • “When you are not afraid of rejection and it feels like you have nothing to lose, amazing things can happen.” — Jia Jiang
  • More gems from Jia Jiang’s 100-day rejection experiment.

1: Rejection is not about you.

It’s about the person doing the rejecting.

In Jia’s experience, people reacted differently to the same request. This had to do with their biases, preconceptions, mood and whatever else. It wasn’t a personal rebuke.

Don’t take rejection personally.

2: Give a why.

Explaining the story behind the request will increase chances of a Yes.

Asking for something with a background reason gives people comfort about the idea — that it’s not just a effortless ask. If you are collecting donations vs collecting donations for Ukraine refugees, which one is easier to say yes to?

Be human — include a story.

3: Ask enough people and eventually you will get a ‘Yes’.

Jia’s soccer experiment was on Day 6 of his 100-day experiment.

Do you think he expected a yes? The lesson here is to keep spinning the wheel. The more chances you take, the more opportunities will pop up.

You don’t get what you don’t ask for.

Focus on the controllable factors and detach from the results to achieve greater success in the long run.

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